[imported from livejournal and backdated]
[sans photos as I can't find the edited versions I was using and cbf making more]
Been an interesting last couple of weeks. And I've been frequently
interrupted trying to write this post coz there are two kids to tend to,
plus my mum to socialise with when she got back from Christmas shopping
^_^ So don't trust the time stamp :P I've also left out a lot of small
details coz figure this thing's going to be long enough as is and
probably not that interesting reading in the grand scheme of things :P
Also I've decided to break up the entry and only write the birth story
for now coz it's still turning out bloody long, will write up the first
couple of weeks later :P
Day 1 of Labour - 30th October
The
contractions got regular on the night of the 29th. Made me briefly
wonder if Smidge would rock up on the 30th, seeing as I'd predicted she
would be born between the 30th and the 1st. They were regular but they
weren't very strong and didn't seem to be doing anything so we decided
it was safe to go to bed.
Spent most of the 30th ignoring or
trying to ignore contractions. Had a couple of pretty decent ones which
had Josh asking if he should call Corrie (our midwife), I said no, they
weren't doing anything.
Day 2 of Labour - 31st October
Woke
up at the buttcrack of dawn, fed Tao, got pretty solid contractions
during breastfeeding and a bit after. Wondered if they would develop
into anything, they didn't. Spent the day in more pain than the day
before, so both Josh and I figured that we couldn't be too far off.
Josh got the codemonkeys around with the idea that if I went into labour
proper we would kick them out and do all the other stuff we needed to
do. As the night wore on I retreated into the room coz the guys were
stressing me out, not deliberately or anything, they were stressing
about what they needed to do and what they had to do by when, and it was
stressing me out to the point where labour stalled completely. Least I
got a bit of a reprieve from the aches and pains and discomforts.
Day 3 of Labour: 1st November
Towards
the afternoon, the aches and pains got pretty bad. As in I was
stopping what I was doing and thinking about it bad. Josh asked if he
should call Corrie, I didn't say no so he did. kowren
came round. Corrie came round and had a look, and said it was likely
that things would happen sometime today, and to give her a call when
things hotted up. She left, terrycat came round.
Josh filled up the pool for me and I dropped in. Everything was immediately better. Tao joined me for a little while.
kowren
decided to start timing contractions. She'd brought around Rogan Josh
for dinner and we dug in around dinner time. I had dinner in the pool
coz I didn't want to get out. We then hoed through a box of Ferrero
Rochers. I had to keep hydrated as I was spending a lot of time in the
nice hot water, so I put my baby gut to some good use.
koren
timed contractions at under 5 minutes for a while so we called Corrie
back in, she brought the mobile hospital with her and the most
hospitallish looking piece of equipment (a couple of tanks with a face
mask) was hidden behind the partial wall. Good thing we weren't
anticipating needing to leave out the front door in a hurry, that
pasageway isn't that big :) Tao got into investigating all the medical
equipment, I was feeling pretty good. The pain was manageable though
very uncomfortable out of the water, and I had to get out a couple of
times as I could feel things slowing down every so often and getting out
and walking around for a bit helped.
The contractions were busy
getting nastier and while I was still easily holding conversations with
everyone, I couldn't talk through them anymore. Josh came by for many
many cuddles and it was good. Him and terrycat spent most of the night playing cards.
Late at night things stalled majorly. terrycat
went home. A second internal showed I hadn't dilated much (the first
one done much earlier in the night said I was 3 going to 4cm and the
mucous plug came out and looked gross), was only 4 going to 5cm and the
waters hadn't broken, which we thought it had earlier due to the mass of
cloudy stuff floating around in the water, and the baby was also facing
the wrong way, she had her back against my back and we needed her back
against my front. Attempts to spin her around failed, Corrie suggested
trying to get some sleep. kowren headed home at about 2am and Corrie crashed out in the spare room for a little while.
Ruan's Birthday - 2nd November
I
got exactly no sleep coz it hurt too much. Corrie came out to see how I
was doing after a while, and was tossing up whether to go home and try
to catch some Zs herself and come back later, or whether to call Marilyn
(the backup midwife) to come and take over while she went home and got
some decent sleep, or whether she should stay. I said yeh her going
home and getting some decent rest would be a good idea. Then jumped
back in the pool coz the pain was getting worse. Corrie put in more hot
water seeing as me yelling for Josh to come do it did nothing as Josh
wasn't interested in waking up. Corrie decided to do another internal
just to see how things were going. Waters broke and the pool turned
really cloudy.
Things hotted up seriously then. I blame the fact
that the water was comfortably warm and not nicely hot for the amount
of pain I was in and ended up in. The noise I was making woke up Josh
and Tao. Tao wanted boob but he was aware from watching that he wasn't
going to get any. I apologised to him, and Josh ran distraction by
starting to make pancakes for everyone, seeing as it was obvious now
that it was happening and going to finally end soon.
The
contractions got serious, Corrie observed I was bearing down a little. I
could handle it, it was good. It was doing something and I knew what
to do with the contractions.
Then suddenly they changed. I looked at Corrie and said "I don't know what to do with these ones."
She
said something about breathing through them. Breathing didn't cut it
so I "roared" through them instead (that is to say, started screeching
very loudly, but I was still pushing through them as well).
The
ever observant boys halted their pancake making and came to watch.
After yelling through a few of the nasty bitch contractions, I yelled at
the top of my lungs, then looked at Tao and saw that scared look on his
face, and he held up his arms to Josh who picked him up and cuddled and
comforted him. I didn't yell quite as loud after that, think that was
the worst one, but was still pretty loud. Still blaming the lack of
really hot water. Josh came through a couple of times and held my hand
as best he could seeing as he had to comfort the boy as well (which was kowren's
job but obviously she wasn't there coz Smidge decided to be late :).
Corrie kept quite calmly telling me to yell through the contractions.
Fenrir
was quite worked up, racing around the pool trying to find what was
causing me tomake that much noise, probably so he could maul it. I
think Corrie was looking like the best candidate so Josh kicked the poor
mutt out. The cats had made themselves scarce.
Sometime then I
said "I can't do it" just the one time (I said it about five times when
giving birth to Tao), and had both of them telling me that I could and I
was, and remembered that I could and I was.
Corrie suggested I
put my finger in and see how far away the baby was. I did so. Now
imagine your middle finger is the birth canal with the top knuckle being
the cervix and the tip being the opening. She was just above the
second knuckle and may as well have been on the moon. Two pushes later I
somehow managed to gasp "I can feel it coming" as I felt the head
plunge from there to just below the second knuckle. Then Corrie was
again very calmly telling me that she could see the head, and told me if
I could to put my hand down and try to very slowly push the head out.
Now
perceptions shift and twist. In my mind, my body went bugger slow
delivery and popped the baby out onto the floor of the pool. Apparently
what really happened is I did deliver the head nice and slowly. Either
way I put my hand down as instructed and looked down as well (which is
probably how I pulled that groin muscle, I was at a really awkward angle
and under a lot of stress), I saw her head halfway out and put my hand
on it, it was a slimy little dome of a head. The rest of it came out
and I held this tiny little precious head in my hand. I recall
repeating "I gotcha, I gotcha" before I let go while the body plopped
out. It was at this point that I thought she'd fallen to the bottom of
the pool but Corrie had at some point come closer and had caught her and
was passing her up to me, telling me to grab the baby and lift it to
the surface.
I did so, she broke the surface and immediately
started yelling. I said something quite profound like "Hey Ruan". In
the mad endorphin haze, I observed there was something odd about her but
couldn't work out what. Corrie had already worked out what and told me
she was going to get the cord out from around her neck. I then
registered that Smidge had the umbilical cord wrapped tight around her
neck and body, pinning her arms to her sides. Corrie tried the usual
trick of sliding a couple of fingers under the cord and lifting it over
the head, but there wasn't enough cord so I ended up having to turn
Smidge this way and that so we could untangle her. Then I cuddled her
lots, wondering how I could possibly hate her like I was worried I
would. I also stuck her on the boob and she immediately started
feeding. I believe I said "HAH! Success!" as my attempt at
breastfeeding Tao when he was born resulted in two sucks and him passing
out.
We
had a good look and she looked like she'd been in the wars, her face
was bruised up, she had two black eyes, one of which was just about
swollen shut, and her lips were huge and swollen as well.
Corrie
said that what she thinks might have happened was that Ruan was unable
to turn due to being wrapped up in the cord, and not being able to turn
was possibly why she couldn't keep low enough to put pressure on the
cervix to get it to open which was why labour kept stalling. She also
figured that the reason I was in so much pain was because my cervix had
dilated the last 5cm and Ruan had turned and dropped to where she was
meant to be at the same time in about half an hour. I observed her head
was still spherical, and Corrie said it was because it hadn't had time
to change shape with the speed of the birth. Apparently it had taken
somewhere between 2-5 minutes to push her out after full dilation was
achieved, pretty bloody quick hence the bruising. I figured she had
been born so quickly because we had to get the cord out from around her
neck so it wouldn't strangle her to death.
The stupid placenta
wasn't terribly interested in dislodging and I was getting tired sitting
so decided may as well hop out and if the placenta had dislodged maybe
Corrie or Marilyn (who had missed the actual birth by about five
minutes) could pull it out coz I was over pregnancy and birth and
couldn't be bothered pushing it out myself. They helped me get out of
the pool and onto the futon (which Marilyn had prepped), I got covered
with a blanket and felt nice and warm. They wanted me to birth the
placenta and I just wanted it out as I was sick of everything and was
still getting nasty contraction pains coz the placenta needed to come
out. In the end I think there was a bit of each as they tugged on the
cord and I had a couple more contractions and pushed the bloody thing
out. Josh came over to cut the cord. Which I think resulted in Marilyn
making pancakes in the kitchen.
Ru
got wrapped in a blanket and passed to me, where I gave her yet another
boob. Marilyn said something along the lines of "She's feeding like a
trooper!"
A
bit later after things had settled down and Ruan had been weighed and
measured and was back on the boob yet again (glutty thing that she is), I
saw Tao standing at the cat scratching post looking quite forlorn. I
told him he could come have some nah-nu as well if he wanted, and he
immediately ran up and attached to my other boob.
Corrie
got picked up by her husband and went home for some well deserved rest.
Marilyn in the meantime hustled me into the shower and then to bed.
Josh came in and fed me pancakes and honey and I passed out for quite a
while after that. About time I got some decent sleep too, and it felt
good ^_^
The saga continues later, I've
just realised it's nearly 11pm (yeh this took me nearly a day to write,
shut it ;) and we have to be up early tomorrow, Josh has his first of
two exams and I'm going shopping with Mum :)